From People-Pleaser to Self-Healer: My Journey with Inner Child Work
What Is Inner Child Healing, Really?
Inner child healing is a form of emotional and psychological work rooted in reparenting, trauma-informed therapy, and subconscious rewiring. It’s based on the idea that many of our adult patterns, like perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional reactivity, or fear of abandonment stem from unmet needs and unresolved emotions from childhood.
According to psychologists like Dr. Nicole LePera, also known as The Holistic Psychologist, our core beliefs and nervous system patterns are formed in the first 7 years of life. If we experienced emotional neglect, inconsistency, or were taught to suppress our feelings, we may carry those imprints into adulthood without even realizing it.
Inner child healing helps us become aware of those imprints, bring compassion to the parts of us that are still holding on, and begin the process of reparenting ourselves. It’s not about blaming our caregivers, it’s about freeing ourselves from the patterns that no longer serve us.
My Story: The High Achiever and the Generational Healing
Growing up, I was a high achiever. I was school president, enrolled in dance, piano, martial arts, always moving, always performing, always creating. I thrived in the spotlight… or at least, that’s how it looked from the outside.I took pride in being the one who could do it all and do it well. I was the teacher’s pet. The favorite. The one who always wanted to be seen as kind, smart, and impressive. But behind that polished image was a nervous system in overdrive… and a little girl who didn’t yet understand her sensitivity.
What I didn’t know at the time was that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). I felt everything, deeply and intuitively. I picked up on tone shifts and the emotions others weren’t saying out loud. And I made it all mean something about me. If someone at school didn’t like me, I thought I had done something wrong, I would internalized it. My self-worth quietly became dependent on how I was perceived and I was bullied in elementary school. I never learned how to speak up and stand up for myself when I felt hurt.
Eventually, I lost touch with my own needs, because I had never been taught how to truly honor them. Years later, it all started unraveling in a way I couldn’t ignore. The perfectionism. The anxiety. The overthinking. The subtle ways I kept abandoning myself. And that’s when I found inner child healing. This work didn’t just help me understand my patterns. It helped me uncover where they came from. I began seeing how I was carrying more than just my own pain. I was holding onto generational wounds that didn’t start with me.
My grandmother used to talk about how her husband left her. I remember hearing the sadness in her voice… and feeling it like it was my own. I didn’t realize at the time that I had absorbed her abandonment wound. That I was carrying the pain of women in my lineage who had been left by men, silenced, or made to feel unworthy of love. I had no idea how much ancestral grief I was holding in my body, until this work gave me a way to finally release it.
Through inner child healing, I began to:
Let go of abandonment wounds I didn’t even know were shaping my relationships
Reconnect to the softness and sensitivity I had once been ashamed of
Break cycles of emotional suppression that ran through generations of women before me
Give my younger self the safety and love she was always worthy of
This work gave me my power back.
It helped me become the woman I needed when I was a little girl and in doing so, I began healing not just for me…
but for my mother, my grandmother, and the women who came before them too.
Join The Inner Child Healing Workshop HERE
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The Inner Child Healing Workshop
After doing this work on myself and witnessing the profound shifts it created in my nervous system, my relationships, and my sense of self I knew I had to create a space for others to experience this kind of healing, too.
The Inner Child Healing Workshop is a 6-week experience designed to help you reconnect with your younger self, release emotional blocks and rewrite the limiting beliefs.
It combines the most powerful tools I’ve used in my own healing journey:
Breathwork to tap into your subconscious mind and release repressed emotions
Hypnosis to rewire your subconscious patterns
Somatic practices to regulate your nervous system and feel safe in your body
What You’ll Experience Inside
Each week, you’ll receive a curated blend of:
Audio lessons to guide your understanding
Breathwork and hypnosis journeys to activate healing
Integration prompts and practices
Space to move at your own pace, in your own timing
You’ll move through six key chapters of healing:
Week 1: Meet Your Inner Child
Understand your personal inner child archetype and reconnect with the younger you who still lives within. Begin building trust and safety with this part of yourself.
Week 2: Healing the Mother Wound
Explore how your relationship with your mother (or maternal figures) shaped your emotional needs, boundaries, and identity. Includes a powerful breathwork session to release stored grief and create space for reparenting.
Week 3: Healing the Father Wound
A week dedicated to understanding and transforming how paternal energy influenced your sense of protection, power, and worthiness.
Week 4: Self-Love Through Your Love Language
Learn how to meet your emotional needs in a way that truly lands through the lens of your unique love language. Reclaim your right to receive love in the way you were always meant to.
Week 5: Rewriting Core Beliefs
Identify and rewire limiting beliefs like “I’m not enough,” “I’m too much,” or “Love has to be earned.” This week supports deep subconscious transformation.
Week 6: Reparenting and Integration
Learn how to become the safe, loving presence you never had. This week gives you tangible tools to embody your healing and carry it forward into daily life.
This Is For You If...
You’re tired of being stuck in the same patterns, overthinking, people-pleasing, emotional reactivity
You’ve done therapy or personal development work but still feel like something is missing
You’re ready to create lasting emotional safety and self-trust
You’ve always felt deeply and you’re starting to see your sensitivity as a gift
You want to heal the past not just for yourself, but for future generations
What’s Included
6 transformational modules
Weekly breathwork and hypnosis journeys
Reflection prompts and journal practices
1 year access to all content
A supportive, self-paced container to move at your own rhythm
Ready to Begin?
Your inner child is waiting to be seen, held, and loved.
Not to be fixed but to be remembered.
And this workshop is your invitation to begin.
Join the Inner Child Healing Workshop Now
xx,
Alexis